Notice how many times we say “No!” in a day? It is often in the dimension of speech we find ourselves saying: “No! I don't it like it.” or “No! I don't want to do it!” or even “ No! Things should not be this way.” But a closer observation at the dimension of thinking we find the frequency of the No's to be much more, usually sporadic and almost unconscious reaction. A conflicting opinion, a foul smell, 'indecent' clothes, homosexuality, drugs, politics and countless other things? “No!” The subtle quality of most No's are that they involve a spontaneous reaction based on our previous conditioning and fears and worries, they don't require any new effort in terms of thought or consideration and are usually on the assumption that our predisposition on the subject is correct, in short we have a fixed mental position. Is that the best way to go? I am sure most of us keep having moments of realisation that our previous disposition on a particular object, person, situation was at one time incomplete, flawed and rather non-compassionate. Often I find the people with greater ego-complex have a greater tendency towards resistance.
So next time you say a No! or want to involuntarily resist something, HOLD ON! . Will it kill to give it some more time before you react? For example, some one 'seemingly' insults you or provides a conflicting opinion. Your mind will instantaneously take a defensive stance and say No! And before you can take contol of the situation your mouth also is ready firing bullets and bombs in defence. All you have to do is: Hold On! Just watch while your mind hurls out an instantaneous series of No's. However during this new 'relapse time' don't keep mentally arguing about the contents of the object, just let it be.
Now comes the trick: The power Yes! Acknowledge the situation embrace it whole heartedly: Yes! I was abused, Yes! I had to go to a stinking toilet, Yes! My Mom thinks I am worth nothing. Rather the content and your reactions can you relate to the Yes or rather IS ness of the event. It is as it is, it does not care whether you as an individual like it or not, take offence or defence. It is as it is. Acknowledge it and leave it behind. Sooner rather than later, through this equanimous state of mind , I have found arises a new insight, a fresh wisdom, a different approach: May be the criticism was appropriate or may be the person who criticised has a particular perspective and he is entitled to it, isn't He/She. Isn't it obvious toilets are supposed smell dirty, why to react? Oh! My mama care for me too much, let her be! A new wisdom will arise through you only if you let your mind take a break from the continuous denial and resistance of what IS, a chain of reactions and No's! With this may be we will see the world a little more compassionately, with a little more understanding.
So the trick once again is to: Hold on whenever you sense a No!, Embrace the Is ness of the situation with a Yes! Wait for nature to throw a new insight. :)
Disclaimer: The 'preacher' has made more unsuccessful than successful attempts to follow 'the trick'. :P
So next time you say a No! or want to involuntarily resist something, HOLD ON! . Will it kill to give it some more time before you react? For example, some one 'seemingly' insults you or provides a conflicting opinion. Your mind will instantaneously take a defensive stance and say No! And before you can take contol of the situation your mouth also is ready firing bullets and bombs in defence. All you have to do is: Hold On! Just watch while your mind hurls out an instantaneous series of No's. However during this new 'relapse time' don't keep mentally arguing about the contents of the object, just let it be.
Now comes the trick: The power Yes! Acknowledge the situation embrace it whole heartedly: Yes! I was abused, Yes! I had to go to a stinking toilet, Yes! My Mom thinks I am worth nothing. Rather the content and your reactions can you relate to the Yes or rather IS ness of the event. It is as it is, it does not care whether you as an individual like it or not, take offence or defence. It is as it is. Acknowledge it and leave it behind. Sooner rather than later, through this equanimous state of mind , I have found arises a new insight, a fresh wisdom, a different approach: May be the criticism was appropriate or may be the person who criticised has a particular perspective and he is entitled to it, isn't He/She. Isn't it obvious toilets are supposed smell dirty, why to react? Oh! My mama care for me too much, let her be! A new wisdom will arise through you only if you let your mind take a break from the continuous denial and resistance of what IS, a chain of reactions and No's! With this may be we will see the world a little more compassionately, with a little more understanding.
So the trick once again is to: Hold on whenever you sense a No!, Embrace the Is ness of the situation with a Yes! Wait for nature to throw a new insight. :)
Disclaimer: The 'preacher' has made more unsuccessful than successful attempts to follow 'the trick'. :P
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